Looking for a Marriage Miracle?

From Kidz onthe Coast Magazine – 2016 April – May Issuecouple-kissing-400x400

I’ll get straight to the nitty gritty. In your marriage has the spark gone? Are you growing in parallel silos or unevenly or in different directions? Not talking anymore or only about the kids and home chores?  Are you missing the affection, intimacy and thrill? Are you feeling bored, unappreciated or even taken for granted? Are you looking enviously at other relationships? Are you having the same fights and never fully resolving disagreements or disappointments? You don’t want to leave and still love each other, but you are wondering how things might be if you did leave? Are you feeling un-resourced and don’t know where to go for support? Maybe you are at the point of wishing for a miracle?

At the coal face of marriage, beyond the

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Spring Weddings in Review – Congrats to all my couples

Wow….I have enjoyed a cracker season of weddings in Spring.  It pays to book your key wedding suppliers in advance because September, October & November are definitely peak months (along with Feb & March).

Congratulations to all my couples: Mr and Mrs Halliday, Mr & Mrs Monaghan, Mr & Mrs Dehar, Mr and Mrs Copland, Mr & Mrs, Robens, Mr & Mrs Probert, Mr & Mrs Williams, Mr & Mrs Dwyer, Mr & Mrs Chapman, Mr & Mrs Hall, Mr & Mrs Wolski, Mr & Mrs Braham, and Mr and Mrs Fitzgerald.  And my December couples so far….. Mr & Mrs Hortsman, and Mr & Mrs Simpson!

Every wedding is so unique to each couple. There are too many highlights to single out….I feel so blessed and love them all…..instead, here is a gallery of love and joy:

Mr and Mrs Dehar

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Suzanne and Chris’s magical community bushy love festival wedding!

12038849_10206934714263788_8272532815551557428_oMy 2015 Weddings Season, and my second decade as a celebrant began with a joyful first ceremony of September for my dear friends Suzanne Grant and Chris Halliday.

In between the Friday and Sunday rain and gloom, Saturday the 5th emerged with warmth and gorgeous sunshine. It was a big grass roots, community-based, home crafted, all hands on deck wedding that transformed the ordinary of Kariong Scout Camp into the extraordinary – a vintage bush festival of love. We did kitchen duties, before, during and after.  There was flashmob singing, a BBQ and bonfire for millions of kids being being gorgeously feral and there was so much great food and wine, joy, music, laughter, dancing and feasting. We needed a few days to recover but it was all worth it and what a wedding should be…community, love, friendship, joyful connecting and celebrating

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Marta and Stephen say I Do

marta and stephenI love Marta and Stephen. I met them at another dear couples wedding Leonie and Samir’s at Bells last year and we hit it off.  Originally Marta and Stephen were planning to travel back to Stephen’s homeland in England to marry, but it was all too bureaucratic to achieve and early this year plans changed.  Don’t worry, the big English castle celebrations remained in the plans, just the ceremony, with a few dear dear friends was then planned for Sydney.

Marta and Stephen created a gorgeous intimate and luxe celebration at the Sofitel Wentworth and I was very privileged to provide a very intimate, fun and meaningful service. Marta and Stephen were fully engaged in the ceremony creation process, inviting the ceremony to be a real expression of them and their story, as well as inviting their friends to participate

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Sarah & Luke. Mindaribba House, March 2015

Sarah and Luke Tucker were married at Mindaribba House in Tocal in March.

What can I say, I drove home singing at the top of my voice after this ceremony I was on such a high! 

I love this couple,  they were so grounded, so in love, so funny!

And how did this love begin……at the office of course!  And in Sarah’s words, she “accidentally put her boobs in Luke face as she leaned over his desk to ask him a question!”

Sarah thought Luke was very interesting and a little mysterious and was intrigued to find out more…….firstly as friends….Sarah learned about Luke’s humour, intelligence and weirdness, but it wasn’t until she saw Luke’s legs in shorts that the attraction began to intensify.

And for Luke, the experience was pretty similar.  He found Sarah incredibly funny, inappropriate and full of personality and confidence. And the fact that she was,

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The Entity of Marriage

Kidz on the Coast article (Jan 2015)

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When I prepare my wedding couples for their wedding day and planning for their ceremony, I think it is my duty of care to have a discussion about marriage.  I want to understand what their values and expectations are, and also share some insights for consideration as a way of preparation for one of the biggest relationship transitions people can make in their lives….to marry.

I am a big believer in investing in relationships and in marriage, of course! But relationships, full stop, aren’t easy. Marriage isn’t easy, and for that matter, nor is parenting. Human are the most complex beings on the planet, too. The key is to treat your relationship as you and your partner’s ‘love child’. This is most important when you transition and evolve your relationship in Marriage.

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Ceremony and ritual can give focus and celebration to our many expressions of Love

Article from Kidz on the Coast Magazine – April/May 2009

Have you ever felt that special energy at a wedding ceremony, where you are swept up in a warm and uplifting feeling? Maybe during the ceremony you found yourself focussing on the message delivered by the celebrant or minister and it gave you an opportunity to reflect on your relationships and the love in your life. When you participate in a collective experience such as a wedding ceremony it provides a positive concentration on love and it can create a very tangible change in our emotional state.

For all the major life events, not just weddings, but birthdays, namings, and even funerals, it is through ceremony that we can give expression and focus to the people and events that shape our experience of love. Ceremony offers words and symbols, and a time and place, to consciously engage with our feelings

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