Kidz on the Coast (Dec/Jan 2015)
When I interview couples for their weddings, and I ask about the importance of their family, this phrase is almost word for word repeated countless times, “my family is my world”.
I think this is even more true than we know….even for people who don’t have a great relationship with their extended family and may not be close or have them ‘in their world’.
Families not only prepare you for the world and life, I believe the amount of diversity, conflict, complexity, triumph, challenge and richness of interactions you experience and learn from in the microcosm of your family circle, is exactly what you will find on the macro-scale out in ‘the real world’. It is inescapable.
Whatever the quality of relationships you experience in your family of origin, there will be an unnerving degree of pattern repetition and replay happening inContinue Reading
This weekend my mum celebrated her 72nd birthday. Over the course of the weekend she was guest of honour and indulged with beautiful gatherings and gifted many lovely presents. It culminated in a long lazy lunch surrounded by her trusty gaggle of wonderful gal pals, who adore and admire her enormously, with me tagging along too for the fun and frivolity.
Well, I don’t just tag along for the fun and frivolity, I go greedily to soak up the energy and be inspired in the presence of ‘evolving masters’. I truly love being in the company of my mum and her friends. They are so alive and wise. I highly recommend every woman out there get themselves some rocking it, sassy evolved senior women on their team to lead the way and smooth the path and generally nourish them with great loveContinue Reading
Kidz on the Coast article (April 2015)
My new high school teenager had his first big school project due this week. The lead up involved many acts of nagging, reminding, threatening to get him started and still, it took till the last weekend to see a flurry of stress and activity arise from him. And even then, he kept stopping and asking for me to help, A.K.A, for me to do it for him.
His first effort was unceremoniously critiqued by me. It was harsh criticism that came out of my mouth, uncensored, before I had time to put it through the ‘positive parenting filter’ with a resounding, “Not good enough…not even close…. this is a primary school effort, you are in high school now, it needs much more substance”. Ooops. Not my finest hour as a parent.
Kidz on the Coast Article (Feb 2015)
I love the beginning of a new year. I love reviewing my progress, reassessing my dreams and desires and setting new goals. Yes, I am a New Years nerd, preferring the emerging light of a New Years Day sunrise over a NYE party. Give me an unknown horizon any day over the nostalgia of the past.
But sometimes my gaze can often be distracted, focussing too longingly into the future, so seduced by the fantastical of the yet to be realised and the energy of potent potential, that I can risk failing to grasp the reality and pleasure of today and the ‘right now’ moments. I have to remain vigilant and ground myself in the power of now, (to quote the famous Eckhart Tolle). He is right too! The only power weContinue Reading
Gosford City Magazine article (Jan 2015)
It is officially Summer. School is done. Holidays are here. Yay!!! The weather is great…..I hope…and you are busy with Christmas and New Year’s celebrations, and sharing holiday fun with family and friends. And I really hope all your wishes come true.
But at some point in the silly season, I get overwhelmed by it all and crave the return of normalcy. And I know for many, while family is great, maybe only in small doses.
After a while, I secretly want to get back to work and for the kids to be back at school. I become agitated by too much relaxing and socialising and long for the return to routine and my ‘alone time’ and ‘creative space’. And you know what? That is entirely OK and natural too! I don’tContinue Reading
Kidz on the Coast article (Jan 2015)
When I prepare my wedding couples for their wedding day and planning for their ceremony, I think it is my duty of care to have a discussion about marriage. I want to understand what their values and expectations are, and also share some insights for consideration as a way of preparation for one of the biggest relationship transitions people can make in their lives….to marry.
I am a big believer in investing in relationships and in marriage, of course! But relationships, full stop, aren’t easy. Marriage isn’t easy, and for that matter, nor is parenting. Human are the most complex beings on the planet, too. The key is to treat your relationship as you and your partner’s ‘love child’. This is most important when you transition and evolve your relationship in Marriage.Continue Reading