There was a recent episode on SBS Insight about new approaches to aged living, and in particular, broadening the options to more holistically and individually cater for the needs and wishes of families. It was heartening the conversation was being aired and scary in the same breath at the lack of choice.
Currently, unless you are independent, both physically, mentally and even financially, the options for seniors as they move into the remainder of their lifetime, narrows significantly. For most, whilst the desire to maintain autonomy and stay at home is paramount, often this option is not available or practical.
Should a person need help, their first wish is to have a partner or family take care of them, but often that is not available.Continue Reading
This weekend my mum celebrated her 72nd birthday. Over the course of the weekend she was guest of honour and indulged with beautiful gatherings and gifted many lovely presents. It culminated in a long lazy lunch surrounded by her trusty gaggle of wonderful gal pals, who adore and admire her enormously, with me tagging along too for the fun and frivolity.
Well, I don’t just tag along for the fun and frivolity, I go greedily to soak up the energy and be inspired in the presence of ‘evolving masters’. I truly love being in the company of my mum and her friends. They are so alive and wise. I highly recommend every woman out there get themselves some rocking it, sassy evolved senior women on their team to lead the way and smooth the path and generally nourish them with great loveContinue Reading
Seniors on the Coast article (March 2015)
It can be said that your age is a chronological fact, a number, but growing old is mental, cultural and habitual and, in our Western culture, the socialisation of negative norms for growing old are very entrenched.
I’m interested in this, because my husband, who is 12 years my senior, is turning 55 this year. I was beginning to tease him and roast his impending ‘getting old’, busting out all the usual clichés, joking about how he can get cheaper senior’s insurance and that he’ll need to leave to go live in a gated community etc. Thankfully I had sense to pause and listen to my assumptions and judgements, and stop myself.
“Hang on” I said to myself, “I have a vested interest in keeping my husband young, healthy, vitalContinue Reading
Kidz on the Coast Article (Feb 2015)
I love the beginning of a new year. I love reviewing my progress, reassessing my dreams and desires and setting new goals. Yes, I am a New Years nerd, preferring the emerging light of a New Years Day sunrise over a NYE party. Give me an unknown horizon any day over the nostalgia of the past.
But sometimes my gaze can often be distracted, focussing too longingly into the future, so seduced by the fantastical of the yet to be realised and the energy of potent potential, that I can risk failing to grasp the reality and pleasure of today and the ‘right now’ moments. I have to remain vigilant and ground myself in the power of now, (to quote the famous Eckhart Tolle). He is right too! The only power weContinue Reading
Gosford City Magazine article (Jan 2015)
It is officially Summer. School is done. Holidays are here. Yay!!! The weather is great…..I hope…and you are busy with Christmas and New Year’s celebrations, and sharing holiday fun with family and friends. And I really hope all your wishes come true.
But at some point in the silly season, I get overwhelmed by it all and crave the return of normalcy. And I know for many, while family is great, maybe only in small doses.
After a while, I secretly want to get back to work and for the kids to be back at school. I become agitated by too much relaxing and socialising and long for the return to routine and my ‘alone time’ and ‘creative space’. And you know what? That is entirely OK and natural too! I don’tContinue Reading
Imagine a flowing river. Its source is an underground reservoir, a pure, deep freshwater lake. Over time this river has become dammed; with sections pinched off from the flow. What once was a gushing river, now is a small rivulet.
This is sometimes how our relationship with our Self develops. Our soul’s source and individual spirit is like that eternal wellspring, it is always there, but its free flow has been diverted, blocked, eroded, dammed, siphoned away and pinched off through the trials and tribulations of life and love. This is what leads us to lose connection and love for ourselves.
In the process of learning to grow up, conform, fit in, and be normal we learn how NOT to be ourselves. We learn to dismiss our natural intuition. We learn to believe the opinions and judgements of others. It is very hard to be immune to this conditioning ofContinue Reading