There’s nothing silly about New Years goals – Seniors on the Coast January 2017

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I love beginning a new year. My favourite public holiday is New Year’s Day. Christmas is done and dusted, summer is in full swing, people are still in a festive, relaxed holiday mode and the Universe gives us a fresh canvas.

It’s a cosmic dose of hope and love

New Year usually begins with a sunrise salute and giving thanks followed by a plunge in the ocean.  Then I cast my gaze up and ahead, and begin the dreaming. Dreaming big; grand and bold.  I will mind map my desires, vision board them into tangible realness, set goals and make plans.

When I used to work in corporate, we would set our goals and targets or KPIs for the year, but that was always a dreary exercise.  You may be familiar with the workplace term – SMART goals. Make

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The Timing of Life Lessons – Kidz on the Coast Dec 2016

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As I write this today, Trump has just been elected and my eldest son today turned 17.

The leader of the ‘free world’ has a new President Elect.  The first-born in our home is almost a man.  I don’t know how either of these things just happened! Both have left me rocked and gobsmacked and a bit scared. Both set us down a course of nothing I’ve ever known before.

What do these two things colliding on the same day, sharing the same timing in history, possibly have for me as message and wisdom? I look to Father Time and the comforting patterns found in the evolving of life and love to soothe me.

Hopefully for both situations any extreme reactions will have met in the middle, we will have adapted to new environmental conditions and time

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Life & choices into ageing.

Happy romantic couple walking and holding hands on a beachSeniors on the Coast Article – June 2016

There was a recent episode on SBS Insight about new approaches to aged living, and in particular, broadening the options to more holistically and individually cater for the needs and wishes of families.  It was heartening the conversation was being aired and scary in the same breath at the lack of choice.

Currently, unless you are independent, both physically, mentally and even financially, the options for seniors as they move into the remainder of their lifetime, narrows significantly.  For most, whilst the desire to maintain autonomy and stay at home is paramount, often this option is not available or practical.

Should a person need help, their first wish is to have a partner or family take care of them, but often that is not available.

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Looking for a Marriage Miracle?

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I’ll get straight to the nitty gritty. In your marriage has the spark gone? Are you growing in parallel silos or unevenly or in different directions? Not talking anymore or only about the kids and home chores?  Are you missing the affection, intimacy and thrill? Are you feeling bored, unappreciated or even taken for granted? Are you looking enviously at other relationships? Are you having the same fights and never fully resolving disagreements or disappointments? You don’t want to leave and still love each other, but you are wondering how things might be if you did leave? Are you feeling un-resourced and don’t know where to go for support? Maybe you are at the point of wishing for a miracle?

At the coal face of marriage, beyond the

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Peace on earth begins with your family

Kidz on the Coast (Dec/Jan 2015)

When I interview couples for their weddings, and I ask about the importance of their family, this phrase is almost word for word repeated countless times, “my family is my world”.

I think this is even more true than we know….even for people who don’t have a great relationship with their extended family and may not be close or have them ‘in their world’.

Families not only prepare you for the world and life, I believe the amount of diversity, conflict, complexity, triumph, challenge and richness of interactions you experience and learn from in the microcosm of your family circle, is exactly what you will find on the macro-scale out in ‘the real world’.  It is inescapable.

Whatever the quality of relationships you experience in your family of origin, there will be an unnerving degree of pattern repetition and replay happening in

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Spring Weddings in Review – Congrats to all my couples

Wow….I have enjoyed a cracker season of weddings in Spring.  It pays to book your key wedding suppliers in advance because September, October & November are definitely peak months (along with Feb & March).

Congratulations to all my couples: Mr and Mrs Halliday, Mr & Mrs Monaghan, Mr & Mrs Dehar, Mr and Mrs Copland, Mr & Mrs, Robens, Mr & Mrs Probert, Mr & Mrs Williams, Mr & Mrs Dwyer, Mr & Mrs Chapman, Mr & Mrs Hall, Mr & Mrs Wolski, Mr & Mrs Braham, and Mr and Mrs Fitzgerald.  And my December couples so far….. Mr & Mrs Hortsman, and Mr & Mrs Simpson!

Every wedding is so unique to each couple. There are too many highlights to single out….I feel so blessed and love them all…..instead, here is a gallery of love and joy:

Mr and Mrs Dehar

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Dying to have the conversation

suntreeArticle for Seniors on the Coast – August 2015

Death is a profound rite of passage that escapes no-one. Facing the end of life process – whether through illness or old age, disease or accident – can be made meaningful and bearable by creating the appropriate rituals and celebrations. End of life ceremonies to mark this final passage, and the people and relationships involved, are incredibly important.

The funeral is the most sacred and profound ceremony to conduct. It is the final authoring of one’s life.  But often families are unprepared and unresourced. Even with an expected death, many families find the essential information they need to make decisions and feel empowered with choices, is not available to them.

It is not just the funeral though, how many of us have a plan for our dying? Given that most of us

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Suzanne and Chris’s magical community bushy love festival wedding!

12038849_10206934714263788_8272532815551557428_oMy 2015 Weddings Season, and my second decade as a celebrant began with a joyful first ceremony of September for my dear friends Suzanne Grant and Chris Halliday.

In between the Friday and Sunday rain and gloom, Saturday the 5th emerged with warmth and gorgeous sunshine. It was a big grass roots, community-based, home crafted, all hands on deck wedding that transformed the ordinary of Kariong Scout Camp into the extraordinary – a vintage bush festival of love. We did kitchen duties, before, during and after.  There was flashmob singing, a BBQ and bonfire for millions of kids being being gorgeously feral and there was so much great food and wine, joy, music, laughter, dancing and feasting. We needed a few days to recover but it was all worth it and what a wedding should be…community, love, friendship, joyful connecting and celebrating

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At end of life, consider the difference my unique, bespoke and holistic funeral & pastoral care services can offer.

My craft as a funeral celebrant and pastoral care practitioner is unique, bespoke and holistic. It is hard to convey what I do, but I was humbled to receive this thank you from a family I worked with last week. They have generously allowed me to share their words to support the work I do in the hope others can be held appropriately at their time of need. Because I don’t work for the big funeral houses, my service survives only by word-of-mouth and community referral from those who have experienced the difference I can offer. It is a sensitive service I offer and hard for me to ‘advertise’ but please know I can be available to you or any family in need leading up to, during and after a death of a beloved. Thank you my lovely family for these generous words:

Dear Sarah

You’ve been on

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The Parenting “Condition”

Kidz on the Coast article –August 2015

As parents the love that we have for our children is unconditional…..it is a given…. nothing they can do will ever change the fact that we love them.  We loved them from the beginning and we will always love them.  Yes, that is a truly great thing.

Sometimes however, in this tough gig called ‘parenting’ not all our interactions feel ‘unconditionally loving’ simply because the child/parent dynamic is full of ‘conditions’ of engagement. We have to say ‘no’ a lot. We disappoint and discipline.  We can get angry and snappy and tired and hurt and generally be the faulty, flawed human beings that we are.  And sometimes our offspring will confuse and equate the conditions of parenting with conditions for loving them and can arrive at a faulty logical conclusion and limiting belief that our love is conditional.

I believe this lies at

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